Hello 2019. Goodbye Toxicity.

Happy 2019! 😀

What is your resolution for the New Year? (Check out my post “5 Ways to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolution,” to help you stay true to your goal(s) this year.) I have several resolutions. 😉 One of them is to end relationships with toxic people.

Time magazine did an interesting article about toxic relationships called “How To Tell If You’re In a Toxic Relationship — And What To Do About It.”

Although this article seems to be more focused on romantic relationships, any type of relationship can be toxic. Some takeaways from this article are:

  • A toxic relationship can be defined as “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.”
  • “a toxic relationship is consistently unpleasant and draining for the people in it, to the point that negative moments outweigh and outnumber the positive ones. “
  • “toxic relationships are mentally, emotionally and possibly even physically damaging to one or both participants.”
  • “Love should never cost you your peace. It should never cost you your joy. It should never cost you your happiness. If there’s more negative in the situation than positive, something has to change.”

Apocalyptica has a great song about what it feels like to be in a toxic romantic relationship and the dangers of this type of relationship. Check out “S.O.S. (Anything but Love)” featuring Cristina Scabbia:


Bound to your side, I’m trapped in silence
Just a possession
Is it sex or only violence
That feeds your obsession

You send me to a broken state
Where I can take the pain just long enough
Then I am numb
Then I just disappear

So go on, infect me
Go on and scare me to death
Tell me I asked for it
Tell me I’ll never forget
You could give me anything but love
Anything but love

Does it feel good to deny
Hurt me with nothing
Some sort of sick satisfaction
You get from mindf**king

Oh stripped down to my naked core
The darkest corners of my mind are yours
That’s where you live
That’s where you breathe

If you have any toxic people in your life, may you have the courage to break your ties with them. ❤

On a different note, I’m excited for my upcoming show:

Jimmy Murn/Allison Merten/Pinhead McFly at the High Noon

Date: Sunday, January 13, 2019
Time: 8 PM
 – 10 PM
Location: High Noon Saloon (701 E Washington Ave, Madison, Wisconsin 53703)
Cost: $5 at the Door

I hope to see you there! 🙂

Thoughts? Please post them :-)

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